the second secret is the high chair stage- And for the record- I HATE the high chair stage-absolutely, positively, can not stand this part, IMO the most tortorous part of young motherhood.Stickiness everywhere, crumbs in every crevice, morsels of food scattered all over my floor, 2-3 outfits a day, no bib or washcloth is an equal match for this evil, no matter how clean you get it the cycle repeats