"In my psychotherapy practice, one of the things I encounter over and over is a person who has suffered a fair amount, sometimes greatly, who nevertheless seems to be unmerciful about herself (or himself). ???Why am I such an idiot,??? they say, or, ???I???m so sick of myself,??? or ???You must get sick of hearing people whine all day.??? Actually, most people I speak with are not whining." . . . .