. "If I lend a book (in and of itself, an unusual occurance) to someone I never lent to before, I give them a bookmark with instructions NEVER to dog-ear my books, mostly hard-backs, or this is the last book you will ever get from me. (nicely, not mean) I have a really good friend that used to dog-ear, doesn???t anymore and is still using the first bookmark I made for her." . . .