. "rol' as he can and his narrative was that I was too controlling in the marriage. 2. he knows that I will not (which I won't) say I am coming to game as this would mean that he would not take DS at all and that then both DS and I lose out rather than just me (and sort of DS but not so directly) and I do not want to be that kind of person + if I did just turn up he may take DS home or something mid-matc" . . .