. . . . "Well the truth was that when we DID go to see him he would sit there with his nose in the newspaper and completely and totally ignore us, yet we faithfully went on Christmas and Thanksgiving and any other time that he actually asked us -- which was NEVER, nor did he EVER bother to darken our doorstep though we didn't live that far away, but he made sure that the outside world saw us as spongers wh" .