To acclimatize oneself to the here and now, to the changes in role and behaviour required of us as we age and enter new states, is a great part of sanity.When Epictetus instructed us not to wish for things to be other than as they are, he partly had this kind of thing in mind.Society is far too fragmented now for a single Ericksonian metaphor to encompass the change required as a unitary thing, ne