As hard as it can be, patience is the best thing for both of you in the long run.OCD flare ups are common in mothers and so assume it is the same for fathers, a group for mothers with OCD was recommended to me by a midwife (http://www.maternalocd.org/index.php) and they could perhaps help.Also, I am sure you are not too slack, it is probably just that when you have an anxiety disorder you are hyper