3] wherein [0084] R is H or CH3, [0085] Y is O or NH, [0086] R1 is an alkylene group having from about 2 to about 6 carbon atoms, [0087] R2, R3 and R4 are each independently an alkyl group or hydroxyalkyl group having from about 1 to about 22 carbon atoms, and [0088] X is a monovalent anion selected from halide and alkyl sulfate having from about 1 to about 4 carbon atoms, or [0089] b. diallyldime