my inlaws are exactly the same way! they are nice to my husband and i (he is the oldest of the 3 brothers). we met in college, dated 5 years before marriage, been married 5 yrs and now ttc. so, to them, we are the golden ones. however, mid brother has always been what they called (yes, actually called) the black sheep. he never had any stable, long lasting relationships, never finished college,