the ???yeah, buts??? won???t work. i have these all the time, especially related to issues around my own healing & also the work of the refuge. it???s so easy to justify our position: ???i don???t do it that much???at least i???m not like so and so???at least i am trying???.i swear, i can quit if i wanted to???or???someone???s got to do it or else ___ will happen...??? i???m not saying these thing