it is not a luxury that you get to be mean or rude or invade someone's privacy or whatever else because you are a member of a disenfranchised group.posted by koavf at 2:50 PM on August 6, 2014 [2 favorites] We tried giving the less egregious everyday sexism/racism/homophobic/transphobic stuff a new term - micro-aggression - and people including on this very website derail every damn conversation usi