Re: I AM DESPERATE, I do not know what to do! im 29 and he is 31 . we both gained a lot of weight after we got married and had the kids and we met, had our first child and got married within less than a year. he has lost almost all his weight and I am still struggling to lose mine, because I am with my kids all the time especially my son who is special needs and cant walk, talk, feed himself, etc. he