Rude to imply to a woman, especially since she really could not ask someone else.But not so rude to imply to a man, since he was in the position of supplicant, and there is sort of a cultural bias that men are not necessarily automatically appealing. (For one thing, he can make up for being unappealing by being able to own property, etc.) So it is OK to imply that he is lucky anybody wanted to marry h