it is the reason that I try to stop myself when my mind wanders off to the if only I was (insert something or some place or someone other than what/where/who I am now,) I would be (better.)If only I was rich, I would be happy.If only I were thinner, I would be happier.If only I could speak the language, I would be more comfortable.If only I were in a chaise lounge on the French Riviera sipping a m