It???s okay we don???t have to have sex, I just want us to get to know eachother!??? (you accepting her frame/terms) isn???t as congruent to it as something like ???don???t worry, I???m sure I???ll be crawling out the bathroom window when I see your horrible haircut lol??? is (you keeping the frame of being in charge of whether you two have sex or not, and her needing to impress you).