I do not wish to go all 'nethuns' here but I kind of think that if your intuition is telling you there is something creepy about this then maybe there is.I do not think that it is ok for her to spend hours drawing while he is in bed on his laptop or whatever.I do not think it is ok that his house is a state.it is not ok for her to smell of grease or dirt.You must know him well if you have had a relation