There are 3 things we tell ourselves that defeat us. 1 is rationalizing- things like its a birthday or holiday or lluncheon or other things we say are ok to pig out when we could find a reason every day if we let that get out of hand. 2- unrealistic expectations or goals like I will lose 20lbs and go to the gym every day in 2 weeks. when we fail, we give up. 3- all or nothing thinking- if we arent