It goes like this:A is a boy who is in age of marriage.A's parent, relative or friend... suggests an unmarried girl they know called B.if A accepts, they go to B's family and propose.if B's family think the boy is acceptable, then B will be asked for her opinion.if B accept, they marry.so it is an arranged marriage but not the forced kind. both A and B have to accept it to work.this is how it shoul