He grew up in a 25-room Victorian in Bronxville (it was known as ???the owl house??? because of the 25-foot-tall bronze owl that sat atop it), where he encountered such luminaries as Brooke Astor, Jackie Kennedy, Ezra Pound, John Updike, and E.B. White. ???My father was more interested in them, in the grownups, than he was in me,??? he confides. ???I was unhappy and lonely in our house.??? He atte