posted 06-05-2002 09:01 PM I find that telling my partners what I like, especially at times when we are not getting hot-n-heavy, dramatically helps to improve our, ahem, physical communication. noob, think of it this way; if you know what someone likes/wants/does not like/does not want, it is a lot easier to surprise them, because you have got a ready supply of inspiration due to your discussions. erin